All of us feel fear to one extent or another; let's face it, if we didn't, we would walk out into roads with fast moving traffics or just casually step off cliffs. Some people do, but most of us have a sense of danger that alerts us that neither of these things are going to end well.
But when some fears get the better of you and stop you achieving your goals, that's when you've got to look at reclaiming control.
Fear can you own you. It is overwhelming and powerful and can leave you feeling helpless. Some fear is completely paralysing, other fear leaves a knot in your stomach and some are just a fleeting thought. This time last year, I blogged about facing fears, but I've realised there are some other measures you can take so thought I'd share with you lovely lot.
One of the things I've learned is that making yourself accountable for facing your fears is a huge step forward; think about what they are, how you can take steps to overcome them and even who can help you. Be really really honest with yourself and don't hold back. I reckon most fears especially in a fitness or weight loss context boil down to two things; judgement and failure. We're human... we don't want to be judged and we don't want to fail.
To give you some rather trivial context for my most recent musing on fear, in my training life, I've often feared box jumps. These are explosive jumps that see you going from a squatting / sitting / standing start and exploding up onto an elevated platform landing on both feet.
Some people make ridiculously big leaps and leave my jaw on the floor, but even the slightest elevation slightly terrifies me. I really sat and considered where the fear was coming from and - you guessed it - judgement (of landing on my face and looking like a complete and utter plum in the place I spend most of my time outside of work) and failure (what if I just couldn't do it?).
When you consider some of the menial day-to-day fears that we encounter, are the sort of ones we acknowledge and take control of every single day... so why should the bigger ones that we *could* control be any different? I'll give you an example that most of you will relate to. If you have a fear of sleeping through your alarm or not waking up in time to catch a flight or get to an appointment, what do you do? Just go to bed worrying?! No. You set two or even three alarms. You might even ask someone else to wake you. You own it, right?
So I decided, all controllable fears just need a simple three-stage approach:
Interrogate (what are you actually afraid of... honestly), make yourself accountable (tell someone what you're afraid of) and create an action plan (what steps can you put in place to regain control?).
Back to the box jumps.... so this morning I'd had a really good think about what my fear was based on, I told my PT that I had a fear of them and needed her help in overcoming them, and now we're creating an action plan. I'm sure my fears will actually be realised (I'm bound to fall over, or fail at some point), but the point is that I'm in control. Not the fear.
I realise this formula can't fix all fears, but I'm pretty sure there are some areas of our lives we can all make some quick fixes and take that control back. I'll keep you updated on the box jumps ;)
(and in case you're wondering what I'm worried about it... it's this